Okay, so you were believing in God for your dream job, maybe a loan for your dream house, business or a relationship you thought would lead to marriage. You were really in faith this time around, you prayed, fasted and sowed seeds. You didn’t get the call back for the job or loan for that business or house. The relationship ended he/she broke up with you instead. You are left wondering well where did I go wrong God? “I was in faith and applied the word of God to my situation, but things just did not go as I expected.” You were or is still devasted by this disappointment. You were waiting for this breakthrough to take you to your next level. But now you are left disappointed, depressed; faith is on “E” and you are ready to give up. The enemy is speaking words of defeat in your mind, telling you “it will never happen,” “God is not real,” “God doesn’t like you,” and the list of lies continue day after day.
Can I be real with you? I’ve been there, and I know what it feels like to be disappointed by life. I know what it feels like to stand on the word of God and not see what I believed in God for at the time manifest. It hurts like hell. I can recall the ending of 2014 going into 2015; it was one of my worst seasons. I experienced so many “L’s” that year. I had applied for Graduate School in November of 2014 and that same month the company I worked for informed us that January 2015 we would be let go. The company did a massive layoff around the country, and our site was the last one. I was so angry because I was up for promotion. My VP was considering me for the position I was praying for. I sacrificed a lot and worked hard to get to this point. This news crushed me, and that was only the beginning of the many disappointments that followed.
I also did not get accepted to Graduate School. After receiving the last letter of denial, I remember laying on my bed crying like a baby. I was distraught, and I cried myself to sleep that night and many nights. I was upset with God because I felt like God had forsaken me. Besides the many things I was going through at the time. It felt like nothing good was happening in my life. I had stepped out in faith, and my faith had failed me. I remember asking God “am I not believing hard enough?” It was one of the toughest seasons I’ve had to face as a believer. Looking back, I can call it “a season of disappointments, ” and it lasted for three years. And during that season God was silent in my life. He was there, but He was silent. That season drew me closer to God more than anything. I had to rely on Him to provide for me and strength.
During that season of disappointments, I found myself in a very dark place. I was very depressed and sad. I could barely get out of bed on some days. I didn’t realize God was testing my faith. That is the reason He was silent. He wanted to see if I didn’t get my way, “would I still trust him?” If I couldn’t hear from Him “would I still stand on the promises of God?” God also needed to know “did I really want it?” After receiving the denials, I could have easily said you know what I’m not going through this again. I could have given up. But this is what I desired at the time. My friends, It’s one thing to have faith, but to have faith after being disappointed time and time again in your pursuit of what you desire in life. That is what you call mountain moving faith. Your faith moved that problem. Becuase you did not give up, your problem gave up. Our faith can wear out any situation we face in life.
By March 2016, I was still jobless and did not know what my next move would be. But I said “that’s it I am through with this pity party,” seemed like I was the only guest at that party. I got my faith together, and I started praying and doing research on other Graduate Schools in NYC. The two I had applied to previously, I would have to wait another year before applying again, and I refused to. After praying about one particular school, I stepped out on faith and reached out to the Chairman of the Business Department. He said, “I would need to take four pre-requisites because I don’t have any Undergraduate business courses and get a B or higher in each course.” I said okay I could do that. To make a long story short, I took three of those four courses and got greater than the B. God gave me favors in his sight, and he told me I didn’t have to take the fourth one.
That was in August of 2015 I got accepted, and today I am in my last semester of the Masters of Science Program. I will finish a semester early and graduate June 2017. Overcoming a major disappointment is painful. But in the midst of that hurt, please know that God is there. Even if it appears as though, He is silent. God is there watching to see what your next move will be. He is looking to see how bad do you want it. He is waiting to see if you are after Him or His hand. Are you only going to trust Him when things are good? Will you keep going or will you allow the disappointments of life to defeat you? Here are five tips to overcoming a major disappointment from a spiritual standpoint.
1. Remain Steadfast in faith.
2. Find a scripture to stand on that relates to your situation. Meditate on it day and night. That when the enemy come to bombard your thoughts with doubts use it.
3. Do not question your desire. If this is what you desire and it is God’s will for your life stay the course.
4. Worship the Lord. Once you have made your request known to God worship Him. Instead of praying and asking God for the same thing over and over. Just worship the Lord in spirit and truth. By praising the Lord you are now telling Him even if you don’t get that job, He is still God. Even if He says no to your request, you will trust Him. Always remember if something does not work out it is because He has something greater for you. His answer is never no but “I HAVE BETTER for you!”
5. Be consistent. You have to be consistent with faith. Faith is a lifestyle. The righteous lives by faith. Even if you don’t receive what you have been praying for after one day, week, month or year whatever you do, don’t give up.
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