Is it hard to showing compassion to others when you don’t think they deserve it? I know it sounds wrong. Especially as a Christian right? We are required to show grace to others. We are to love those who hate us and forgive those who have done us wrong. Christ did it, and you are an imitation of Him.
But what happens in the split second when you’ve been wronged, and you’re angry and hurt? Is it your first thought to show compassion? Of course not. And be honest, you don’t often think about what the person may be going through at the moment to cause them to treat you like that. You don’t reflect on their past or how someone might have hurt them, so it has a stronghold on their behavior. You don’t think about how much they are hurting on the inside. How their environment is dictating their attitude. Your mind does not go as deep when your feelings are hurt, or heart is broken.
Recently, I found myself in this situation and as upset as I was the Lord used my church sister to minister to me. I was getting ready to throw in the towel on a particular relationship. I was very annoyed and frustrated with ‘someone.’ I felt I had every right to be upset and annoyed as I have always been there for them. As I began to talk to my sister in Christ, she began to talk about compassion. She was correcting me in love with sincerity and honesty, and I was getting annoyed (LOL).
Honestly, I had already made up my mind why that person no longer deserved to be in my life. And I felt my sister was making excuses for this person. She kept saying “you don’t know what they are going through,’ you should pray for them.” My response, “I go through a lot of things but I’m always there for others. And I am, I’m always there if someone needs encouragement or support.” My argument to my sister and God was who is there for me? Who’s there to encourage me when I’m down? No one, I have had to fight to overcome depression and encourage myself in the Lord when I’m weak. Yes, God is always by my side. As I said to the Lord, there are times I would like to be surrounded by others who can uplift me. But silly me not realizing to personally have God on MY side is the greatest help or support I’ll ever need. I don’t have to run to anyone for help. Maybe it’s my role, for now, to support and encourage others as they are going through tough times because I know what it feels like to go through difficult situations. Maybe God has me as a crutch for others while I rely on Him as my crutch.
I also realize at times we think we are compassionate to others and we’re not. As people of God, we’re so quick to cut others off because we can’t get past our emotions. We’re so quick to judge and condemn people who are not on our level spiritually. Because we see them struggling with their sin, we condemn them instead of praying for them. The Lord is dealing with my heart when it comes to compassion. I often treat others the way I expect them to treat me. And if they don’t I get upset and say well “I don’t do it to them why should they do it to me.” Not realizing everyone is not me. I am me, and they are them. I remember my pastor made a powerful statement once. She said, ” I forgive people in advance, I walk around with ‘post-dated’ forgiveness card.” Why? Because people will always offend you, but you can’t allow their actions to change you or cause you to walk around with unforgiveness. Unforgiveness is an open door for the enemy to come in.
As Christians, you have to practice showing more GRACE to others. It’s by showing grace to people, even when YOU think they don’t deserve it, it can lead them to Jesus Christ or away from Him. It’s not up to you to decide if a person deserves grace or not. What if God viewed you with this same skewed mindset? Where would you be today? Friends others should be able to see Jesus in us. Learn to see others with a heart of compassion.
Struggling with letting go of hurt or do you find it hard to forgive others? Check out this post on forgiveness here.
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