What to do when the person closest to you has betrayed you. This person can be a significant other, best friend or family member. How do you deal with the hurt? How do you move on from it? Do you cover it with a band-aid? Maybe move on without acknowledging it. In life, you will encounter people who have no regards for how they treat others. They will not have compassion or remorse for others. The enemy will use them to come and suck everything out of your life; your peace, joy, happiness, love and so on. Discernment is so important to have. It’s something every Christian should ask God for daily. How to discern the wolves dressed in sheep clothing. So how do we deal with the hurt and betrayal?
Let it go
You may not want to hear this, but you have to let it go. I know it’s easier said than done, I know it’s possible that’s why I can say let it go. I’ve been there, and healing took place when I gave it to the Lord. I cried my eyes out for nights. Yes, it was painful, but I let it go. You will never experience peace if you hold on to past hurt. You will go from relationship to relationship with the same hurt. It will haunt you for life. You end up missing out on God’s best for your life when you hang on to the past. It’s how Satan keeps God’s children in bondage by making us dwell on the past like it happened yesterday. Satan is such a liar that
he will constantly play the situation over and over in your head to remind you of what the individual did. When you choose not to forgive a person you make it impossible for God to work in your life. You also make it hard to love others. The hate and bitterness you have for the individual occupies your heart and makes it difficult to love people unconditionally.
Stop covering your hurt with a smile while building a wall around your heart. You don’t allow people to come near you because of hurt. Hurt from your childhood. Maybe your parents said hurtful things to you growing up, and now you harbor resentment in your heart. Now you’ve rebelled your whole life, and you don’t know why. But it’s the hurt of what was spoken to you years ago. Something you never dealt with. There are some people whose family members abused their authority and robbed them of their innocence which often leads to promiscuity at an early age. These things happen every day to real people. Individuals who didn’t’ ask to be taken advantage of, but, what do you do when it happens? How do you deal with it? You handled it by first acknowledging it happened and it caused pain. You don’t “dress your wounds” up with make-up or material things. You don’t hide it in your heart and lock it away. You don’t hide it through anger, rebelliousness, hate, etc. It happened, so acknowledge it, and YES you didn’t deserve it, but, it happened. Now what? Where do you go from here?
I’ll use myself as an example; I had to deal with a lot of past hurts myself. Pain that as a result of things people said to me growing up, hurt and much more. I walked around with a terrible attitude always ready to fight if someone looked at me the wrong way. I was the QUEEN of attitude trust me. If someone stared at me for too long, I sucked my teeth and rolled my eyes at them. I was angry, mean and rebellious. I didn’t feel loved by my family, so I always kept a wall up. Anyone I met, I didn’t open up much to him or her because I didn’t want to get hurt. I didn’t trust friends or boyfriends. I isolated myself from the world.
But this is how I finally addressed the hurt. When I accepted Jesus as my Lord and Savior. I gave it to him. I emptied my heart before Him in prayer. I cried out to Him for help. In Deuteronomy 31:6 it says “He will not leave you nor forsake you.” If God said He would never leave me nor forsake me in my time of trouble, this is where He MUST prove Himself to be real. I need healing, and I need it right now! I needed to let go of the broken heart paralyzing my growth, and I can’t do it on my own. I acknowledged I needed help. That’s all God wants us to do, surrender to Him and let Him come in. If you keep fighting a losing battle alone, you’re going to end up driving yourself crazy or checking out on life. But I’m here to tell you today this is not your portion. God has a better portion for you in life.
You must familiarize yourselves with the Word of God, find one scripture and memorize it. Stand on it and believe in the word of God with your whole heart. We have the option to test Him, but we often choose not to and would rather remain in our hurt. We can’t get rid of pain on our own. Believe me; I’ve tried, and it only led me to more frustration.
A prayer for you
Heavenly Father, In the name of Jesus I lift up your son/daughter reading this post. God, you know their hearts, search them and see if there is any wicked way, hurt, pain or anger and remove it. God give them a new heart, you said in Ezekiel 36:26 “you will give us a new heart and put a new spirit in us, you will remove the heart of stone out of our flesh and give us a heart of flesh.” Give them new hearts today Lord touch them right now. Bring healing into their hearts as they read this. Lord grant them the grace to empty their hearts before you and give them healing. I ask you this I pray in Jesus name. Amen!
Have you ever been hurt by someone close to you, if so, how did you deal with it?
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